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Heisenberg's Bastard, part I, or, The whole flock of ships*-- - Nothing New Under The Sun
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Heisenberg's Bastard, part I, or, The whole flock of ships*--
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hrafn From: hrafn Date: December 9th, 2009 09:06 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Seeking help

Has he ever gone to see a therapist himself? Or considered it? Because otherwise, variations on "the problem is all in -your- head, it's all -your- bad behavior, if only -you- would change, things would be better," that's just another variation on the same-old same-old classic abusive behavior.
From: jlb2009 Date: December 9th, 2009 10:37 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Seeking help

Yes, in fact, he has been seeing a therapist for years now, every other week, and she knows that.
hrafn From: hrafn Date: December 10th, 2009 01:06 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Seeking help

I hope it has helped him.

And I also hope that he - and all y'all - understand that once you've lost a person's trust, it can be very hard to regain. Sometimes it can't. Sometimes therapy is incapable of fixing problems, even when the people involved want it to.

And people are under no obligation to spend time with, or accept help from, people they distrust or dislike, even if the dislike is as trivial as "I can't stand the occasional fart joke." Even if it's family.

Seems to me that the most respectful thing a person can do if another person indicates a strong disinterest in spending time in their presence is to leave them the hell alone.
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